My favorite part of the post is:
Don’t expect anyone to ever be sympathetic to any of the things you are going through. Maybe this is why no one talks about these things.
Your friends who want kids don’t want to hear this.
Your friends who don’t want kids will want you to shut up and snap, “You’re the one who wanted kids.” (Because wanting a family means that you want to be kicked in the cervix while urinating on yourself with a back that aches so bad you can hardly move… that’s what YOU GET!)
Whew! It’s been a long time since I wrote here. We’ve been on vacation in America and then apartment hunting and finishing my thesis on being back.
Lots of baby updates:
It’s been confirmed several times that we’re having a girl.
She’s been moving around in there letting me know her likes and dislikes since the end of December. I feel like my tummy has been turned into her personal drum! It’s lots of fun but also weird to feel her moving when I least expect it.
My baby bump is huge!
I’m finally loving being pregnant.
How far along? 19 weeks
Milestones: I now officially have a bump
Total weight gain/loss: No idea. Must buy a digital scale soon.
Maternity clothes? Yes but not gone out and bought any just yet. A couple of stretchy things in my wardrobe are in heavy circulation.
Sleep: Not too bad… Jet Lag here we come!
Best moment this week: Shopping online for the cutest hat and hairbands. Check out lemondropbaby at Etsy!
Movement: Nothing yet *pout*
Food cravings: No real cravings but I’ve been having an *ahem* healthy appetite.
Belly Button in or out? In but I think its changing shape. Looks a little stretched out. Wonder if I’ll get an “outie”!
What I miss: Sushi/Sashimi. The wonderful fresh tase sigh…
What I am looking forward to: Movement! Baby please kick for your parents, aunt, uncle, cousins and grandparents.
Weekly Wisdom/ Snide Comments: Oh you’re still wearing heels? (On the one day I got dressed up to go out after work)
So we’re getting ready for our much anticipated trip to the U.S. I’ve been really stressed out about what I’ll wear and if I’ll be too tired to do everything I want to and cranky in general. But this weekend we packed (well… got all our stuff together and put it into the suitcase), finished all the Christmas shopping, present-wrapping and most of the laundry and I feel much readier and even more excited.
We went shopping on Sunday and I got some cold-weather necessities like a pair of jeans I can fit into and awesome boots, and I went from complaining about my clothes to being really excited to wear my outfits.
It seems really shallow to care so much about what to wear but all the body changes and general angst about growing larger has triggered a self-esteem issue in me. I don’t want to be the frumpy mum. I’m still young and I want to look still like ME even with the baby bump.
I’m looking forward to shopping for maternity clothes in America!
This week has been a very long one filled with a rollercoaster of highs and lows. We started out rough after having had way too much fun at Gil an Lun’s place on Sunday night, reaching home at 2am! We had so much fun catching up with them and kind of our last hurrah with Andrew who will be leaving for Japan in early Jan. The Tan’s were so kind and I left there with all kinds of loot, including the offer of Uharn’s crib.
I know that my crib was passed down to lots of friends and babies in the family and I think it actually returned for my Sister to refuse to sleep in five years later. I love the idea of our baby sleeping in a crib that has been graced with beautiful baby sleeps already.
I’ve also been really busy putting together a couple of things on the Academic front. It’s been exciting and nerve-wracking and I am so fortunate that I have so many excellent people here to advise me.
My well-being has taken a little backslide with morning nausea resurfacing and awful leg-cramps waking me up on Wednesday night. I suspect it’s because I’ve been doing a little too much lately. I need to slow down a little and rest up for the flight to the States. Can’t wait for our holiday. It’s the first one we’ve taken that’s this long in many years.
I’m so looking forward to seeing Mom, the snow and fireplaces in Minnesota.
Kissing and cuddling my niece and nephew and sharing beautiful San Francisco with the other Mr and Mrs Marchand.
Catching up with beloved friends who we don’t get to see often.
Spending time with Nick away from the daily grind that has really ground us this year.
Feeling baby move, it should happen while we’re there. Show us your strength little American Girl!
We had our 16 week ultrasound this week and the doctor said its most likely a girl!
We’re so excited, it’s hard not to be even though the doctor said it wasn’t 100% confirmed. The bub was positioned well though and we got a good look at her cute little bottom and thighs with no penis emerging from between them.
So I rushed home and updated our registry with girl things. I tried not to go too overboard with the pink but I really think she’s going to stay female when we have our detailed scan on January 11th.
How far along? 16 weeks
Milestones: Completed four months
Total weight gain/loss: gained 2.7 kgs/ 6 pounds this month but I’m one and a half kgs less than my starting weight. (not for long!)
Maternity clothes? Not quite. Though slouchy pants and leggings are all I can manage. Can’t wait to shop in the U.S.
Sleep: Yes. Early. And naps. I’m exhausted by 9pm.
Best moment this week: Seeing the baby at the 16 week scan and hearing is “most likely” a girl!
Movement: Felt a few thumps but looking forward to more consistent communication soon
Food cravings: Hmm………none really.
Belly Button in or out? In
What I miss: Still wine
What I am looking forward to: Growing the bump in the next few weeks to show off to my American family and friends.
Weekly Wisdom/ Snide Comments: “The sex doesn’t matter as long as its healthy.” So true…but I still (want to) believe we’re having a daughter
Before I was pregnant I always thought it slightly strange how pregnant women would rub their bellies. Sometimes in discomfort, sometimes just absentmindedly and sometimes it seemed to me like they were just being smug. I was jealous, I suppose, of their connection with that little being in there. It looked like love and I wanted it.
Now that my belly is slowing becoming an orb of wonder, I find that I can’t stop touching it. It’s not just to feel my baby, because I can’t feel anything yet, but because it’s like having an extra appendage. It just sits there like a new friend, just hanging out.
I think we’re going to be good friends.
I woke up this morning with a smile on my face.
I made it through a whole work-week. Getting up and getting out of the house and onto projects at work has been therapeutic. I guess my mother was right after all. I used to hate it when that happened but now it reassures me. I cling to her reassuarnces.
I still had a half hour before I needed to get up and I just lay there, enjoying the moment. My hand on my hard baby bump, nestled next to the love of my life. I think I’m starting to feel what it’s going to be like, being a family.
I can’t wait.
Just like Amber and Mrs. Shortcake I have decided to keep track of weekly changes. I can’t believe the second trimester is already here and I have not been very consistent with documentation at all. Look out for baby bump pictures soon.
How far along? 14 weeks 3 days
Milestones: Completed the first trimester!
Total weight gain/loss: Not sure
Maternity clothes? I’m starting to feel constricted in the waist but my slouchy pants and dresses are doing the trick. Regular jeans and pants not so much.
Sleep: It’s hit or miss. I wake up at least once a night to pee and am very thirsty and kinda hungry but I’ve not resorted to nighttime feeds for myself yet.
Best moment this week: Waking up in the morning and not running to the bathroom to throw up
Movement: Looking forward to feeling something soon
Food cravings: Craving for rice and spiced curries. Aversion to grilled chicken or meat that is chunky.
Belly Button in or out? In
What I miss: Wine
What I am looking forward to: 11 days till we find out the sex!
Weekly Wisdom/ Snide Comments: If you’re having a girl your complexion will improve and it will worsen(darken) if its a boy